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OVERCOMING ANXIETY AND DEPRESSION-Set Yourself Free

Hello and Welcome

For those of us here today, I offer you my hand for the commonplace we share, for what we have been through and also what we have to look forward to. Maybe you are a parent, a close friend, or even the sufferer. Whoever you may be, let us all come together for the benefit of all our souls. We are all looking for some solace, understanding, and relief for overcoming anxiety and depression.

KINDNESS…

LOANING SOMEONE YOUR STRENGTH… INSTEAD OF REMINDING THEM OF THEIR WEAKNESSES.

I OFFER YOU THIS WORD… ‘KINDNESS’… AND ITS DEFINITION AS A STARTING POINT, AND ALSO AS THE BASE THAT WE MUST COME BACK TO, WHENEVER WE EXPERIENCE THOSE FEELINGS OF FRUSTRATION AND HELPLESSNESS, FOR THOSE TIMES WHEN WE FEEL LIKE NOTHING WE DO IS GOING TO CHANGE ANYTHING.

OUR KINDNESS, PRESENCE, UNDERSTANDING, AND COMPASSION WILL BE OUR GREATEST ALLIES  FOR PEACE DURING THESE CHALLENGING TIMES.

It is the greatest of temptations for us who are close and know not what to do. To get so frustrated, to feel so helpless that we come to the point where not knowing what to do, we resort to that final place having exhausted every other option, we make the decision that we will shame them into change, resorting to reminding them of their weaknesses.

This is so natural, simply because we don’t have the knowledge or understanding of what is taking place within that someone we love beyond compare. As a parent, we have this innate need or desire to want to fix everything and fix it now. As we have, or will find out, this is not the answer…and the outcome for you can only be regret.

Having witnessed someone close suffer from anxiety has truly been a gut-wrenching experience for me. Depression coupled with the anxiety attacks and immobility had broken my heart. To feel so powerless to do anything but offer support and have patience through it all.

I have not been immune to depression and anxiety attacks myself, but on a somewhat smaller scale than most, or maybe it was just the fact I couldn’t lie down in the face of it. One thing for sure, that during my experience it was a time of extreme loneliness, darkness, and despair. I wanted to be alone and for everything to just go away.

Through my years of seeking truth, I have been able to overcome many of the negative feelings and emotions that I had in my younger years. My daily rituals of exercising, reading, meditation, and diet have become a way of life for me, these self disciplines have bought me freedom in all aspects of my life.

However, I was to recently experience this with the sufferer being my only child. My beautiful, pure and so innocent daughter. To understand on a deeper scale, our relationship had been loving but also very volatile, with us both not understanding anything about each other and having 2 completely different perceptions of each other.

You see for the past nine months I have lived with my daughter for the very first time and have experienced first hand all the traumas associated with watching a loved one suffer, it has come close to destroying us both. I dedicate this post in the hope that we can all be survivors and not statistics.

Definition of Anxiety

  • A feeling of worry, nervousness or unease, typically about an imminent event or something with an uncertain outcome.

Psychiatry Definition

  • A nervous disorder characterised by a state of excessive uneasiness and apprehension, typically with compulsive behaviour or panic attacks.
  • Desire to do something, typically accompanied by unease.

SYNONYMS FOR ANXIETY

To really grasp some of the emotions experienced let’s take a look at some synonyms.

  • Angst
  • Apprehension
  • Disquiet
  • Doubt
  • Dread
  • Misery
  • Mistrust
  • Nervousness
  • Panic
  • Restlessness
  • Suffering
  • Uncertainty
  • Unease
  • Worry

AWARENESS – STOP ANXIETY AND DEPRESSION

There is no judgment here. The following ideas are simply thoughts from people who are respected and often revered in their knowledge of how the mind works. They are suggestions and are listed to support you, they are simply reminders of what you already know deep within your amazingly beautiful soul.

 

Wayne Dyer

“The truth is that there is no actual stress or anxiety in the world; it’s your thoughts that create these false beliefs. You can’t package stress, touch it, or see it. There are only people engaged in stressful thinking.”

Eckhart Tolle

“People tend to dwell more on negative things than on good things. So the mind then becomes obsessed with negative things, with judgments, guilt, and anxiety produced by thoughts about the future and so on.”

Sadhguru

“Fear, anger, misery, frustration, depression, and despair are all products of a mind that you have not taken charge of.

PERSONAL EXPERIENCES

Let’s look at some personal insights from people who have also experienced anxiety, stress, and depression. Here they tell how it feels to them as they describe their experience and explain what’s going on in their minds… in their own words.

“My anxiety is silent. You wouldn’t even notice a change on the outside but I’m honestly so stressed I can’t even manage simple tasks. People call me lazy when, in reality, I’m just overwhelmed.”

“I get nervous about everything. Sometimes I literally don’t know why I’m anxious. I just am and no-one seems to understand that.”

“How do you run away from things that are in your head?

 “Silence is the most powerful scream.”

“Anxiety makes you sit there and overthink every single thing. At times it makes you think people in your life are leaving you. You begin to feel abandoned, and not worth anything because the most important people in your life don’t want you.”

“It’s sad, actually, because my anxiety keeps me from enjoying things as much as I should at this age.”

“Anxiety is terrible, you could be having an attack and no one would even know, because it’s an inward thing. It feels like you’re malfunctioning and you can’t process your own thoughts. You get a knot in your stomach and you can’t take a full breath, but outwardly you can literally just sit there and look completely normal, as long as no one tries to speak to you.”

“Social anxiety isn’t a choice. I wish people knew how badly I wish I could be like everybody else, and how hard it is to be affected by something that can bring me to my knees every single day.”courage for dream

“When I say can’t take on even one more thing, I really need you to understand I really just can’t.”

“The thing about an anxiety disorder is that you know it is stupid. You know with all your heart that it wasn’t a big deal and that it should roll off of you. But that is where the disorder kicks in.

Suddenly the small things are very big and it keeps growing in your head, flooding your chest, and trying to escape from under your skin. You know with all of your heart that you’re being ridiculous and you hate every minute of it.”

 “Even when things are wonderful. I’m always waiting for something horrible to happen.”

“I say “sorry” a lot, mostly because I feel everything is my fault.”

 “I worry my depression and anxiety are always going to keep me from being the person I dreamed of becoming.”

“Anxiety is the most silently painful experience. It makes no sense and you sit alone and suffer for an unknown reason. You can’t explain it. You can’t stop it, It is horrible.”

“I’m terrified that even if I try my hardest, I still won’t be good enough.”

LETS ATTEMPT TO CHANGE OUR PERCEPTIONS

We can now begin to lift the dark veil of uncertainty…with a change in our perception of things we can move forward, one step… or one thought at a time, and go out once again into a world that loves and supports us in every way known. To take our first steps back out into the beauty that surrounds us in every glance… Let us rediscover the divine perfection that we truly are…along with the miracle of every breath we take.

“I am safe right now. This will fade away. I am not in danger. I am getting enough air. I am starting to relax. I feel calmer. I am going to be okay.”

“When thinking about life, remember this: No amount of guilt can solve the past, and no amount of anxiety can change the future.”

“You can’t stop the waves, but you can learn to surf.”

“You are strong for getting out of bed in the morning when it feels like hell. You are brave for doing things even though they scare you or make you anxious, and you are amazing for trying and holding on, no matter how hard life gets.”

“Be gentle with yourself you’re doing the best you can.”

“Nothing can bring you peace but yourself.”

“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”

“Nothing diminishes anxiety faster than action.”

“I will breathe. Worry will not control me. Stress will not break me.”

“Let whatever you do today be enough.”

“I will breathe. I will think of a solution. I will not let my worry control me. I will not let me stress break me. I will simply breathe. And it will be okay. Because I don’t quit.”

“Worry pretends to be necessary, but serves no useful purpose.”

“Worry is a down payment on a problem you may never have.”

“If you want to conquer the anxiety of life, live in the moment, live in the breath.”

“Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy.”

“Worrying is like walking around with an umbrella waiting for it to rain.”

“Understanding the difference between healthy striving and perfectionism is critical to laying down the shield and picking up your life. Research shows that perfectionism hampers success. In fact, it’s often the path to depression, anxiety, addiction, and life paralysis.”

“Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.”

“You’re not going to master the rest of your life in one day just relax. Master the day. Then just keep doing that every day.”

“Do not let your difficulties fill you with anxiety, after all, it is only in the darkest nights that stars shine more brightly.”

 

“THROUGH AWARENESS OUR DEMONS BECOME OUR ALLIES…Nurturing us and allowing us to grow.”

“Our anxiety does not come from thinking about the future, but from wanting to control it.”

“Slow breathing is like an anchor during an emotional storm: the anchor won’t make the storm goes away, but it will hold you steady until it passes.”

“No amount of anxiety makes any difference to anything that is going to happen.”

“Fear is inevitable, I have to accept that, but I cannot allow it to paralyze me.”

“It’s ok to be scared. Being scared means you’re about to do something really brave.”

“Stress is an ignorant state. It believes that everything is an emergency.”

“Stress is nothing more than a socially acceptable form of mental illness.”

“Worrying Is Like Praying For What You Don’t Want.”

“Anxiety’s like a rocking chair, it gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you very far.”

I sincerely hope that someone… somewhere through first awareness of their thinking process and a change in perception has found some strength to move forward, to become aware that there is hope, that by persevering we are able to glimpse the light at the end of the tunnel. We share the same dreams and we share the same sorrows. The same sun that shines on you today…shines on me.

May the sorrow you felt yesterday be the fuel for your strength today. That past uncertainties have become your guide for decisiveness for the future, while the loneliness you once felt, drives you to know you are one with everything today.

We salute you as you let go of perfection and strive for progress. Step by step… into the wonder of this new day. You are never alone!

With Kindness, Compassion and Love, we share this moment and move forward into this new beginning… with the knowledge that we are one…with the divine perfection of all that we are… and all that is!

Paul

 

22 thoughts on “OVERCOMING ANXIETY AND DEPRESSION-Set Yourself Free

  1. Hello Paul, this is a very good article and taught me many things. And it is true that what is important is what is in our minds. There is no actual anxiety or stress, there is a demon that rules our minds. Therefore, we must be able to befriend the demon in mind. And win our minds first. So, we can have the right step.

    Your writing reminds me of my former self, where I was diagnosed by a psychiatrist that I was experiencing depression (due to stress and anxiety) at a moderate to a high level. And, I had to take sleeping pills almost every night for almost 5 years. However, miraculously I recovered when I attended a training on how to win the mind. While there I was taught “exactly” as you wrote. And after the training, surprisingly and miraculously, I was convinced and cured by a specialist doctor in this field

    Yes, that is my experience with this case. However, until now I still have a lot to learn to control so that I can always think positively and what actions I can take to maintain positive thinking. Do you have any advice for me?

    1. Hi Kylie, It was really interesting to read both your comments and your experience. It sends a message of hope to both me and all my readers. Anxiety stress is not a life long prison sentence but we must take back and know that we are, and always have been able to question and then control our thinking habits, one thought at a time.

      Congratulations and stay aware.

      Blessings 

      Paul

  2. Oh I felt this on a real personal level. I have been struggling with severe depression, anxiety disorders and PTSD for most of my life, and for me, well it hasn’t gotten better. I see my psychologist and psychiatry once every one or two months, but there’s so much brokenness inside of me that I can’t find ways to cope with the trauma. I have also been living with my dad for the last two years (I grew up in foster care) and it has been more of a bitter path than a sweeter path. He wasn’t the parent I needed when I was a child and he hasn’t been the father he was supposed to be ever since. It’s hard and a daily struggle

    1. Dear Stephanie, I surely feel for both of you. Thanks for sharing and we can all relate to the love and bond between a father and his daughter. I personally know how much I love my own and I have and will continue to do my best to be there for me. 

      Right now we both have to go our own way which is sad for me., but we both know it is best. There will come a time when we both offer each other forgiveness and take responsibility for our actions.  I wish you both the same opportunity.

      With love

      Paul

  3. Hello there, thanks a lot for this awesome article I must say that it was very nice, interesting and also informative and I know it would be of great help to the public as it has been of help to me.i my own opinion I must that one must do these things because these are the fastest ways to overcome anxiety issues. Thanks once again I will definitely save this article for future reference

    1. Hi Feji, Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts here at PDM. I’m so happy that you feel the value of my post enough to bookmark it. May we all share  the awareness to escape the entrapment felt by so many in this day and age

      Regards

      Paul 

  4. Anxiety is dangerous and it is not an easy job to get rid of this. You have introduced here a lot of quotes, but in reality how much is it possible to control Anxiety?

    I personally think it’s really a big deal unless you move to a new place.

    I know this very well because my mother is suffering from Anxiety-related disease and only medicines could keep her well. To get rid of Anxiety she has to depend on medicine for a lifetime.

    1. Hi Dr.

      Thanks for your thoughts and for you I offer a simple truth’ that whatever you believe will be true for you.’ I’m not a big fan of taking prescription drugs for anything for they are simply a band-aid and never solve the real problem which is the control of our habitual thinking patterns. However each on to their own.

      I sympathise with your mother and I know what a burden it is to see a loved one suffer without being able to help as much as you would like to. I wish you both peace and contentment

      Paul

  5. This is like the simple most informative and explanatory post I have ever seen about anxiety and depression in my life. Wow! Thank you so much for putting this out. In truth, the personal will to setting oneself free and the desire to have kindness both to others and oneself can go a long way into curbing the effects of anxiety. To me, this is really great to see here. Thank you so much and thumbs up to you

    1. Hello Rodarrick, Welcome back and thanks for your always very appreciative comment. We all have challenges in life and anxiety only makes those challenges seem so much bigger than what they really are. It really becomes a vicious circle and unless you are able to see and comprehend what you are doing to yourself it will always be difficult to set yourself free. You are always so positive and I thank you for that

      Cheers

      Paul

  6. Hey Paul, Thank you for writing on Overcoming Anxiety and Depression. I learned many new things while reading your post. Your post is very helpful for me to keep away from depression.
    I found the truth “The truth is that there is no actual stress or anxiety in the world; it’s your thoughts that create these false beliefs. You can’t package stress, touch it, or see it. There are only people engaged in stressful thinking.”
    Many new ideas I learned like “I will breathe. Worry will not control me. Stress will not break me.”
    You article is helpful for people to live a happy life.

    Thank you

    Parveen

    1. Hello again Parveen, I thank you for your thoughts and am sincerely glad you have been able to benefit from my post. Our lives have become so complex and we have forgotten about the simple things and the pleasure that they bring. Society today has a lot to answer for and we have been brainwashed into a life of fear. It’s time to go back to the simple things in life and there’s no better place to begin with than an appreciation of mother nature and all her wondrous gifts and miracles

  7. Hy Paul.

    This article made me feel overwhelmed at the beginning but I recovered by the end.

    What was not clear (maybe I have missed it during my read) about you not meeting your daughter in China. May you were unable. It could have healed the situation quite a bit. I was separated by my daughter in her early childhood but visited her often. It was painful but not the kind you have written about.

    I just wrote an article about 58 ways of how to relieve stress. Your approach to the situation is different. Sympathizing with someone in a depressed situation may help a little.

    Every moment in this world gives you a small panic attack My study and research tells me pranayama helps your mind quite a bit. It makes your mind light and bigger things look smaller.

    1. Hi there Anusuya,

      Interesting comment and I thank you very much for your opinion. My aim here was to bring awareness to what actually is going on for someone who suffers and knows that there is a process and a time frame for most who suffer.

      My intention was to have my readers allow for that and to then have the sufferer take the necessary steps to move forward through a change in perception. Our  website is all about perception and how to become the best person you possibly can be. To grow and gain strength through adversity and to make use of all the tools available here which includes pranayama techniques

      Regards Paul

  8. Awesome post. I feel great after reading this post. I believe it is very essential to get our mind sorted out from all the clutter out there. There is much more to life. 

    The quotes of Eckart Tolle, Sadhguru that you have presented are very encouraging. Whenever I get too busy in life, I simply think of 2 words: “Know Thyself”. Your post is a better elaboration of these words.

    Thanks a lot for sharing this post with us.

    1. Hi Akshay, Thanks for the comment and what you say has a lot of truth to it. Your two words are a great reminder and sometimes when we have an awareness of how important every thought we have is a simple reminder or mantra is all we need to get back on track. Good one!

      Thank you

      Paul

  9. Anxiety and depression, unfortunately, go hand in hand. In the spiritual world, there are levels of hierarchies that bring more issues as well as vice versa. However, the word of God was the only cure in my life. His word pulled me out of this anxiety and depression of which you speak. All it took from me was to believe in him. 

    1. Hi Linda, Really nice to hear from you and I have adopted the attitude that whatever works for you is what you should adhere to. The creator plays a major part in all our lives and when we do suffer there is always a way out. When we are ready the teacher always appears.

      Thank you

      Paul

  10. Hi. Inspiring quotes, that is for sure. I have always loved that Bulldog mentality of Winston Churchill…”If you’re going through hell, keep going”. For a man burdened not only by the state of world affairs but also by his Black Dog, he knew what he was talking about. The world is a different place because he was able to keep a leash on his Dog. I imagine Joy was a fanciful emotion for him. He worked hard, slept little and imagined results no one else could when the Dog was held in.
    I truly think the idea of shining the light of Joy and Positivity into a dark and dreary world and expecting rainbows and unicorns, when all the Dogs are frothing at the mouth and causing damage, is an imagination, an unreality. A nice fairy tale environment for the peacemakers and the lovers but in today’s’ world of inhumanity and unimaginable torment where the majority of people exist, unlikely to make a dent on our collective apathy and selfishness. Just saying.

    1. Hi there Hon, Really appreciate your thoughts and I too am a great admirer of Sir Winston. There are very few men who achieved what he did. He too made many great mistakes and innocent lives were lost, those of his allies. He was able to still move forward. I’m afraid we can’t all be of the same resolve.

      I sympathise with you for the way you view the world, but sincerely wish you all the best and thanks again for your perspective on things. 

      Regards

      Paul

  11. Having dealt with anxiety over the past couple of years, your post really resonates with me. I find it to be true that a lot of the time, I am anxious over my own predictions instead of what is actually real. That gets me so bogged down that I find it nearly impossible to move on. That’s such a crippling feeling. Thank you for your encouragement!

    1. Hi Steve,

      Nice to hear from you and I’m sure we all appreciate your honesty. You are not alone and I certainly hope just this simple read gives you some hope and faith in yourself to turn things around. Life happens and we need to understand that one challenge faced produces the next. The only people unchallenged are those who have passed away. I admire you and know you will at some stage take back control and move forward with every challenge you meet

      Regards

      Paul

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