PARADIGM SHIFT EXAMPLES
If Her Past Were Your Past, Her Level Of Consciousness Your Level Of Consciousness, You Would Think And Act Exactly As She Does.
With This Realisation Comes Forgiveness, Compassion And Peace’
– Eckhardt Tolle
Hello My Friend
As always welcome to this post of the greatest significance in our search for peace and understanding. To a place where we can challenge ourselves with our need to be right and look for more beneficial ways of improving our confidence and gaining our very own, self-respect.
So let’s begin with our challenge and ensuring we have a change in perceptions
Prior to this all-important lesson let me define some words that are all important in completely comprehending what is to follow!
The state of being or the process of becoming aware of something through the senses.
A particular way of viewing things that depend on one’s own experience and personality.
A supposed intellectual perception or view accepted by an individual or society as a clear example of how things work in the world.
Paradigm Shift Definition
A fundamental change in an individual’s or society’s view of how things work in the world.
Simple Example– The discovery by Aristotle that the earth was not flat, but round.
The Man On The Train
I remember a paradigm shift I experienced one Sunday morning on the subway in New York. People were sitting quietly, some reading newspapers, some lost in thought, some resting with their eyes closed. It was a calm peaceful scene.
Then suddenly a man and his children entered the subway car. The children were so loud and rambunctious that instantly the whole climate changed.
The man sat down next to me and closed his eyes apparently oblivious to the situation. The children were yelling back and forth, throwing things, even grabbing people’s newspapers.
It was very disturbing, and yet the man sitting next to me did nothing
It was difficult not to feel irritated. I could not believe that he could be so insensitive to let his children run wild like that and do nothing about it, taking no responsibility at all. It was easy to see that everyone else on the subway felt irritated too.
So finally, with what I felt was unusual patience and restraint, I turned to him and said, ‘Sir, your children are really disturbing a lot of people, I wonder if you could control them a little more?’
The man lifted his gaze as if to come to some consciousness of the situation for the first time and said softly.
‘Oh your right, I guess I should do something about it. We just came from the hospital where their mother died about an hour ago. I don’t know what to think, and I guess they don’t know how to handle it either’
‘Can you imagine what I felt at that moment?’ My paradigm shifted. Suddenly I saw things differently, I felt differently, I behaved differently.
My irritation vanished. I didn’t have to worry about controlling my attitude or behaviour; My heart was filled with the man’s pain. Feelings of sympathy and compassion flowed freely.
‘Your wife just died, Oh I’m so sorry, can you tell me about it? What can I do to help?’ Everything changed in an instant.
Many people experience a similar fundamental shift in thinking when they face a life-threatening crisis and suddenly step into a new role, such as that as a husband or wife, parent or grandparent, manager or leader.
It becomes obvious that if we want to make relatively minor changes in our lives, we can perhaps appropriately focus on our attitudes and behaviour. But if we want to make significant, quantum change, we need to work on our basic paradigms.
In the words of Thoreau, ‘For every thousand hacking at the leaves of evil. there is one striking at the root.’
‘We can only achieve quantum improvements in our lives as we quit hacking at the leaves of attitude and behaviour and get to work on the root. The paradigms from which our attitudes and behaviours flow’
It Was A Dark And Stormy Night
Crew member-Captain Captain Wake up please sir!
Captain– What the hell is it?
Crew member-Sorry to wake you sir, but we have a serious problem!
Captain– Well man what is it?
Crew member– There’s another ship in our sea lane about 20 miles away, and they are refusing to move!
Captain-What do you mean they are refusing to move? Just tell them to move!
Crew member-Sir we have told them, but they will not move!
Captain– Ok I’ll tell them!
The Signal Goes Out-Move starboard 20 degrees!
The Signal Returns– Move starboard yourself 20 degrees!
Captain-I can’t believe this, does he understand he is talking to the captain of this ship? Let them know who I am!
The Signal Goes Out-This is Captain Horatio Hornblower XXVI, commanding you to move starboard 20 degrees at once!
The Signal Returns-This is seaman Carl Jones II, commanding you to move starboard at once!
Captain-What arrogance, what presumption, we have a seaman commanding me, the captain, we could just blow them right out of the water right now, let them know who we are!
The Signal Goes Out-This is Mighty Missouri, Flagship of the 7th fleet!
The Signal Returns– This is the lighthouse
The Village Fisherman
A boat full of tourists docked in a tiny fishing village. One tourist complimented a fisherman on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took to catch them.
‘Not very long’ answered the fisherman.
‘So why don’t you stay out longer and catch more the tourist inquired’.
The fisherman explained that his small catch was sufficient to meet the needs of his family. The tourist then asked, ‘so what do you do with all your free time?’
‘I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, and take a nap with my wife in the afternoon. Then I go into the village to see my friends, have a few drinks, play my guitar and sing a few songs. I have a full life.
The tourist excitedly interrupted, ‘I have a Business Degree from Harvard University and I can help you’
‘You should start by fishing longer every day! You can then sell the extra fish you catch, and with the extra money you make you can buy a bigger boat’
‘Then, with the extra money the larger boat will bring, you can buy a second one, then a third, and so on until you have an entire fleet of trawlers’
Instead of selling your fish to the middleman you can deal directly with the fish markets, and even open your own chain of seafood restaurants.
You can then leave this little village and move to one of the big cities and from there you can control and direct your huge new businesses.
‘How long will that take?’ asked the fisherman. ’10, maybe 15 years’ replied the tourist.
‘And after that, that’s when it really gets interesting’ said the tourist laughing.
‘When your business gets really big, you can start investing in stocks, shares, real estate and make Millions?
Millions? really? asked the fisherman excitedly
And after that, and this is the best part, explained the tourist..you’ll be able to retire.
So wonderful, I’m so excited the fisherman agreed.
Yes said the tourist, you can live in a tiny village on the coast, sleep late, catch a few fish, take a nap with your wife in the afternoon, go out and have a few drinks with all your friends, play your guitar and sing some songs with your friends.
I love these stories, they never cease to amaze me. In a world of hidden realities, we can challenge ourselves to open our eyes in the face of our own perception of life’s daily events.
We always have a choice when making judgements in our daily lives. The need to be right, and to make someone else out to be wrong, is an ever-present challenge from our ego, but in the big picture are really not so important.
Awareness offers us a choice, to be right, or to let go of the need to be right, and choose peace instead. For a better world choose peace.
I know you will have enjoyed these short stories, and hope they leave you with something to think about. Please write to me of any similar experiences or stories you might like to share, so together we can make a small shift in our thinking, that can make a difference to this wonderful world we live in.
As Magaret Mead Reminds Us-
Never Doubt That A Small Group Of Thoughtful, Committed People Can Change The World, Indeed It’s The Only Thing That Ever Has
With Gratitude Always