I WILL CREATE GOOD HABITS AND BECOME THEIR SLAVES
CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE CHANGE YOUR LIFE
Hello and Welcome,
There are many things that have an effect on our lives, whether that be positively or negatively, whether that be a decision made or by a choice taken.
Whether those decisions and choices are ‘ right’ or ‘wrong.’ Be it by ‘accident’ or by ‘fate’. Regardless of the specifics, they will all come together to form our habits.
Today we are going to look at our habits, which are simply formed out of our decisions and choices, which then come together to influence our moment to moment actions that we have come accustom to, as part of our daily lives.
We like to consider them as part of our makeup if you like. They, in turn, will affect every aspect of our lives.
Our habits will affect our success in life, who we marry, who we see when we look in the mirror, the body we have developed, our health, what type of house we live in, our relationships, the people we call our friends, our bank account balance, the job we do, not to mention our level of happiness, peace and contentment.
The good news is our habits aren’t intrinsic, so if we have some bad habits, they can be changed, and if we want to create some better habits they can be nurtured and developed. Here’s how.
CREATING AND DEVELOPING NEW EMPOWERING HABITS
How long does it take to develop a new habit? A bit like asking how longs a piece of string. The time period can be anything from a single second to several years.
The speed of a new habit pattern development is largely determined by the intensity of emotion that accompanies the decision to begin acting in a particular way.
Many people think about and talk about resolving to lose weight and becoming physically fit. This may go on for years.
Then one day the doctor says that ‘If you don’t do something about your weight, by changing your diet and doing some exercise, you’re likely to die in the next few years.
Suddenly the thought of dying becomes so intense emotionally, that the individual immediately changes his diet, begins exercising, stops smoking and becomes a healthy person immediately.
Psychologists refer to this as a ‘Significant Emotional Experience.’ An experience of intense joy or pain, combined with a new behaviour, can create a habitual pattern that may endure for the rest of the person’s life.
The classic example is putting your hand on a hot stove or touching a live electrical wire. Both will give you intense and immediate pain and/or shock. The experience may only last for a split second. But for the rest of your life, you will have developed the habit of not putting your hand on a hot stove, or touching live electrical wires. The habit will have been formed immediately and forever.
The experience may only last for a split second. But for the rest of your life, you will have developed the habit of not putting your hand on a hot stove, or touching live electrical wires. The habit will have been formed immediately and forever.
According to the experts, it takes about 21 days to break or form a habit pattern of medium complexity.
By this we mean simple habits, such as getting up earlier at a specific time, exercising each morning before you start out, listening to podcasts in your car or at home, going to bed at a certain hour, being punctual for appointments, planning every day in advance, starting with your most important tasks each day, or completing your tasks before you start something else.
These are habits of medium complexity that can be quite easily developed in 14-21 days through practice and repetition
MAKE A DECISION
First, make a decision. Decide clearly what you want, what you are going to do and when you are going to begin acting in a specific way 100 % of the time, whenever that behaviour is required.
For example, if you decide to get up early and exercise each morning, set the alarm on your clock for a specific time, and when the alarm goes off, immediately get up, put on your exercise gear and begin your exercise session.
NEVER ALLOW AN EXCEPTION TO YOUR NEW BEHAVIOUR
Second, never allow an exception to your new habit pattern during the formative stages. Don’t make excuses or rationalizations. Don’t let yourself off the hook. If you resolve to get yourself to get up at 6.00 am, you must do this every single morning until this becomes automatic.
TELL OTHERS YOU ARE PRACTICING A NEW BEHAVIOUR
Third, tell others that you are going to begin practicing a new particular behaviour. It is amazing how disciplined and determined you will become when you know that others are watching you, to see if you have the willpower to follow through.
LEARN TO PUT EVERYTHING YOU’VE GOT INTO EVERYTHING YOU DO
VISUALISE THE HABIT
Fourth, visualize yourself performing or behaving in a particular way in a particular situation. The more you visualize and imagine yourself acting as if you already had the new habit, the more rapidly this behaviour will be accepted by your subconscious mind and become automatic.
CREATE AN AFFIRMATION
Fourth, Create an Affirmation that you repeat over and over to yourself. This repetition dramatically increases the speed at which you develop the new habit.
For example, you can say something like. ‘I get up immediately at 6.00 am every morning’. Repeat these words, making them the last thing you do before you fall asleep. In most cases, you will automatically wake up minutes before the alarm clock goes off, and soon you will need no alarm clock at all.
RESOLVE TO PERSIST
Sixth, resolve to persist in these new behaviours until it is so automatic and easy that you actually feel uncomfortable when you do not do what you have decided to do.
Seventh, and most important, give yourself a reward of some kind for practicing the new behaviour. Each time you reward yourself you reaffirm and reinforce the new behaviour. So you begin to associate, at an unconscious level, the pleasure of the reward with the behaviour.
You set up your own force field of positive consequences that you unconsciously look forward to as the result of engaging in the behaviour or habit that you have decided upon.
Motivation Is What Gets You Started – Habits Are What Keeps You Going
There is tremendous opportunity here to instill new habits into Your ‘Triangle of Joy. ‘
Your Mind –Your Body-And –Your Soul.
Please don’t underestimate your ability to create change in every area of your life, by creating and maintaining your new habits. I wish you well.
I am here beside you always, should you ever need any encouragement, help or advice. It would truly be my pleasure.
With Gratitude Always…