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Hello and Welcome

Before we look at our list and put into practice our Affirmations for Self-Esteem. I feel it’s important to look at and comprehend the two ends of the stick that represent the term self-esteem. Some of us will have come here because we are aware of our own low self-esteem, some of us because of someone we love and care about, and some of us simply looking for an answer to an existence we feel could be much brighter.

Whatever the case I welcome you here and I know you are in the right place, simply because you are here. So let’s look at the variables listed below.

See below for some life-changing affirmations for self-esteem!!

Self- Esteem is the term used to describe a person’s measurement of his/her self-worth. It is how you think of yourself, describe yourself and the collection of beliefs you have about your abilities and worthiness.

Self-Esteem affects how you think, feel, and make decisions in matters that relate to you. It affects whether you choose healthy partners and relationships, a career that you enjoy, or whether you even feel emotional well-being daily. It affects the way you parent your children and the messages that you send them.

It is not a genetic condition that you inherit but rather a learned set of beliefs. The importance of self-esteem is that it influences how you behave and interpret the world around you.

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High Self Esteem-Definition

Confidence and value in one’s own worth or abilities. A feeling of pride in yourself.

High Self- Esteem Characteristics

The following traits are signs of a person with high self-esteem.

  • Self Confidence
  • Optimistic outlook
  • Ability to solve problems
  • Responsible for one’s choices
  • In control of one’s emotions
  • Ability to say no
  • Trusting of others
  • Feels worthy of success
  • Ability to accept compliments
  • Aware of personal strengths
  • Has loving and respectful relationships
  • Acknowledges mistakes and accepts them as growth
  • Looks for solutions to problems

Low Self- Esteem Definition

Low self-esteem exists when someone has a general feeling of insignificance or a lack of importance

What is Low Self-Esteem

Low self-esteem is a debilitating condition that keeps people from realising their full potential. A person with low self-esteem feels unworthy, not capable and incompetent. People with low self-esteem often feel so poorly about themselves that they contribute to their continuing lack of self-esteem.

Low Self-Esteem Characteristics

The following traits are a sign of a person with low self-esteem

  • Pessimistic outlook
  • Fears taking risks
  • Socially withdrawn
  • Perfectionist attitude
  • Mistrusting of others
  • Feeling unloved or unloveable
  • Constantly blaming others
  • Depending on others to make decisions
  • Lack of social skills and self-confidence
  • Anxiety and emotional turmoil
  • Inability to accept compliments
  • Accentuates the negative
  • Unable to accept criticism
  • Unwilling to conform socially

Please, if you feel you do have low self-esteem please click on this link for some life-changing affirmations for developing high self-esteem!

The definitions, descriptions, and list of traits above, give evidence to the fact that the esteem we have, and the beliefs that we hold assume a huge influence over the lives we are living, and our future expectations for the days, months and years ahead.

We must acknowledge our shortcomings and commit to change. We will need to be persistent, determined and have courage so that we can, and will, turn our lives around.

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When you put into practice the affirmations and techniques in the following post, you will experience dramatic changes in a very short time. The statements of truths contained are in direct correlation to the traits we are going to change. Please follow the instructions carefully and voice the statements with the passion and courage that you know lies within you.

I always look forward to hearing from you and anticipate with the greatest of gratitude the changes and the strengths that you draw from these powerful and life-altering truths.

As Always…Thankspaul sits relaxing in a beautiful park in wonderful Wuhan China




  1. Hey Paul, I can relate to both ends of the spectrum when it comes to self-esteem. When I was in high school I suffered from a lack of self-esteem the whole time. It keep me from fulling enjoying life as I was always shy and worried about what other people thought about me.

    But I really started working on building higher self-confidence after I graduated college and I’ve seen a pretty big improvement in a lot of the areas that you’ve mentioned. Like having better control over my emotions and having better relationships with others.

    Affirmations really helped me to feel better about myself. My favorite one that I used was super simple: I just said to myself 50-100 times a day the words “I like myself” over and over, and it worked!

    1. Hey Nick
      So nice to hear from you and your success. Quite often when we look for a change in our lives we are reminded that the little things are the BIG things and that everything we do affects everything else. Change is always simple, but not always that easy and with our affirmations, your simplistic three words ‘I like myself ‘ are a simple lesson in whatever works for you, do it.
      Low self-esteem is a major hurdle for many of us, but having an awareness of this erroneous zone and knowing that it is not generic, that we only have to change our beliefs, gives us a knowing that challenging those beliefs, and reinforcing new beliefs with powerful statements is a sure way to certain success and a much better way of living.
      Wishing you continued, High Self Esteem my friend,

      Your friend


  2. I feel like their are different aspects from both low self esteem and high self esteem that apply to me. I feel pretty good at emotional control, the fact that I am responsible for my situation, and know about acknowledging my mistakes. Yet I still have anxiety, sometimes lack of trust, and fear of taking risks.

    Do you go through any of the things that I mention that are part of low self esteem? Do affirmations help a lot when dealing with these qualities?


    1. Hello Jessie
      I love the fact that you are fully aware of both your strengths and your weaknesses, and in answer to your question about my experience I am currently travelling in south-east Asia and stayed at my friends villas where I have had a substantial amount of money stolen from my room. My initial reaction was one of disbelief, which then moved to anger and then to blame and lack of trust, however, in the back of my mind a voice from the outset was telling me to let it go, and I was able to move through these emotions fairly rapidly.
      My suggestion to your moments of anxiety, lack of trust, and the fear of taking risks would be to ask yourself where these emotions have come from in your past and to question their validity and reality. Ask yourself whether these emotions serve you, or are of any benefit to you as you move forward in your quest for a more meaningful life. I would then suggest you acquire some specific affirmations with relation to these feelings and practise them with commitment and resolve relentlessly. At any time from thereon, you start to feel these emotions or feelings stop yourself, and once again question their reality, and once again affirm the truth with your affirmations.I know without a doubt you will move beyond these feelings with practice to a place of peace and power.
      Congratulations Jessie
      Your friend Paul

  3. Hey Paul,

    I know someone who always feels like she’s unlovable and is unwilling to accept compliments no matter how genuine and true they are. So I wonder, as someone who’s close to this person, what are some suggestions you think can help ease her out of this state of mind?

    I don’t want her to feel like I’m changing her, nor do I expect her to be positive overnight. But what do you think would be the best approach to someone like this? What sort of affirmations should I go through with her?

    Thanks in advance. 🙂

    1. Hello and Welcome Kashia,

      Thanks for joining us here and expressing your concern for your friend. Self esteem as we know is affected by our belief systems which have developed through our past experiences. So your understanding of not trying to change her or think she will change overnight is very significant.

      However there is always a starting point and while I’m not sure of the exact circumstances, your friend is lucky in that she has a friend who is aware of her lack. At this stage I suggest that you accept her as she is for now and try to be a role model and express some subtle examples of loving yourself. Be a good listener and when she says anything that suggests an obvious lack of esteem ask her some why questions 

      For example, When she uses the word can’t or puts herself down in any way ask her Why she feels she can’t or why she believes she isn’t good enough. This way she is actually becoming aware of her thought processes and she will eventually start to question them, which will be the starting point for change within her personal judgements of herself.

      At this stage you can explain the power of affirmations in changing and if you go here…there are many powerful affirmations that you can use or design specifically for her personal challenges. More importantly there are detailed examples of how to say and use affirmations so that we can bring about new strengths and move quickly away from those self defeating attitudes and opinions.

      Please let me know of her progress and If i can help in any further ways. It would bring me the greatest of pleasure to see her turn her life around and abound with self confidence.

      Warmest regards


  4. Hi, thank you for the helpful info!

    I am new to all of this. I struggle with ADHD, so meditating for me is really hard. I just can’t shut off my mind. Do you have any tips or tricks that might help me to achieve focus? The irony is, if I could focus hard enough to meditate, meditation would improve my focus in my overall life.

    It’s hard for me to sit down and focus on anything as it is, though.

    Thanks for your helpful tips.

    1. Hi there Ted, The focus thing is really just a matter of determination and persistence. Don’t be trapped by a couple of letters that the medical world makes up to accommodate a new drug on the market. All I can say is develop the discipline to make time each day and to stick with it no matter what. Cheers mate and all the best


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